It is my position that it's not the governments business, or anyone else's for that matter, whether a women has an abortion or not. At the end of the day it is the women laying on that table with her legs in the air either breathing a sigh of relief or saying to herself "oh my God, what am I doing"...
I say that you can always get pregnant again, but once you have a baby it's there for life, and you have to deal with the father and his family for life...for good or bad...
So should a women have to live with a mistake? a mistake that may not be her fault? what if she is raped...I know of a women who was raped at fourteen and abortion was not an option...everyday she was forced to look at this child she despised...hating her child...seeing the rapists face in his face...never really developing a relationship with her son...she neglected him mentally and physically...never involving him with the family or family functions (although she attended all...and was the "head of household")...she went on to become gay (a biological factor? or a direct result of her hatred of men?)...and was the nastiest person I ever met...she abused her younger brothers scaring them for life...she ended up dying with only one sister and one of the younger brothers (out of nine siblings)she abused by her side...she never enjoyed him, her son...his life, his accomplishments or her grandchildren...
and her son? he lived a life, but who knew him? he knew he was unwanted and knew he was the product of rape and has lived with that shame his entire life...
Do we agree that no matter how traumatic the abortion would have been for her that is was really better for her to have not had the baby? did she really have to live a life with so much anger and shame? this child had a mother that hated his whole being, a family that disowned him by no fault of his own...no father...who was the winner? her? her son? his children? we don't know what his relationship is with his children...did this start a cycle of indifference and hate that will pass through his future generations?
I assume the prolifers would say a life was spared and he went on to produce more life and this is good...and the government would say hey, we have another contributing member to the fiasco we call the federal budget...I say whatever...what is life if you can't enjoy it...if you can't look at your child with unconditional love...if you don't welcome the little arms around your neck and the "I lovesh you" even when they have totally destroyed your house or smeared jelly all over your favorite silk shirt...
I say have a baby when YOU are ready...I totally agree abortion should not be used as birth control or for other superficial reasons...but it's YOUR CHOICE, not anyone else's...
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I'm glad you wrote this. That's an awful awful story...
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