Tuesday, April 1, 2008

why I don't like folks...

don't ask for an opinion if you really don't want it...I believe there are two types of folk...one who asks because they are interested in what folks say, and who incorporates all opinions thus making a well informed decision with less risk of failure...and those who ask but don't really want an answer cause they are gonna do whatever they want anyway...those folk feel they know it all, and just want folks to co-sign to make themselves feel better...
so you know what I do with the latter? I cut them off and wish them the best in all their endeavors...

I also don't like folk who cut off their nose to spite their face...you know you're making a wrong decision, folks are telling you you're making a wrong decision, but yet you proceed with whatever it is you're doing...you know what I say to folk like that? see ya, don't wanna be ya...

I don't like folk who use you for what you're good for and what/who you know, and try to get it for free, then throw you out with the bath water when they are done...you know what I say to folk like that? hahaha, that's why I didn't give you all or the best...you gotta earn that...

I don't like folk who climb up on their high horse and/or contradict themselves...just be true boo...folk will accept you for you, not for the fake front you're putting up cause when you get found out you'll be sitting on air, and we all know what the next step is...hitting the ground HARD...

now this one is strange, and don't take it at face value...think hard about this one before you attempt to pass judgment...sometimes a little bit, or too much, knowledge is a bad thing...I say this because I have found folks with a little bit of knowledge talk a big game, but don't have the knowledge to back it up...and those with too much knowledge forget the human aspect...its all about numbers and research and statistics...they forget that it takes a village, and at the end of the day you need folk to make you successful cause the brown nosers never challenge and thus perpetuate the bad idea...which snowballs into disaster...

I support all who try...I support humble folk...but don't ask my opinion if you really don't want it cause I will always tell you the truth...

3 comments:

The Bear Maiden said...

LOL. Most people don't really want to hear the real deal... and so consequently most people are afraid to tell. But the ones who can tell you about yourself and still love you, AND be the same ones to listen to you when you tell them about themselves and not take it personally, you find those people in the oddest of places, and those are the ones you hold on to...

Fat Lady said...

I think there are also the people who ask for an opinion but just aren't ready to hear it - or it takes some time for it to sink in with them. If you give those people some space - tell them what you think and then back away without judgment about what they do with it - may continue down the wrong path for a bit, but will back track and be happy to see you there, waiting for them.

And then there are those who weigh opinions with all else, including who they are and what they need to do and then move accordingly. I have asked many a person for advice and had them get upset when they thought I discounted advice. But, I wasn't discounting it. And often it changed my path, just didn't make me do the complete turn around the advising person wanted. Sometimes you tell somebody to go this way, and they really can't see themselves doing it - but it makes the direction they were headed in enough to make a slight detour. And sometimes that's enough.

The thing I've learned is hardly anyone, other than your kids - and even they will stop eventually, is going to do what you advise them to do to the letter.

Almost everyone wants to feel like they're making up their own mind, doing what they want, or think is best - not what you decided for them. So if you give them your best advice, show them the reasons and then let them go and make it their own - eventually you see that you really had an impact. It just takes a while sometimes.

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

I think thats ok, but i really cant make judgement on likes or dislikes on disposition nor personal preference alone, but rather how rthey treat and interact with me, great post. have a great weekend